Something shifted.
You can find your way back.
You still love each other. But somewhere along the way, you stopped feeling like partners. The distance, the silence, the same argument that never quite resolves: none of it means it's over. It means something needs to change.
Something between you has shifted.
You're not broken. You're stuck.
Couples come to therapy for many different reasons. Here are the situations I work with most.
You still love each other — but you've stopped feeling like partners.
The warmth is there somewhere. But the distance has grown slowly enough that you can't point to when it started. You miss each other while being in the same room.
Same conflict. Different night. Nothing changes.
You know the shape of the fight before it starts. Someone shuts down. Someone escalates. You both leave the room feeling unheard — and more alone than before.
The physical closeness has faded — and neither of you knows how to bring it back.
Desire doesn't disappear overnight. It retreats quietly when hurt, exhaustion, or resentment go unnamed. That silence has its own weight.
Something broke. You're not sure yet if it can be rebuilt — but you haven't left.
Staying doesn't mean it's fine. It means you're not ready to give up — and that deserves real clinical support, not just reassurance.
Something changed — a move, a baby, a loss — and you're not finding each other in it.
Transitions compress everything. What was manageable before becomes loud. The strain is real, and it doesn't mean your relationship is the problem.
You've tried. You're tired. This is the thing you're trying before you decide.
That's a legitimate place to begin. I work with couples who are exhausted and uncertain — not just those who are motivated and hopeful.
Not just better communication.
A different dynamic between you.
The goal isn't to learn conflict scripts. It's to change the underlying pattern that keeps producing the same conflicts.
You understand what's actually driving the pattern
Most recurring conflict isn't about the topic — it's about what the topic activates. Understanding that mechanism changes how you show up to it.
You can hear each other again
When the nervous system isn't flooded, the capacity to take in your partner's experience returns. That's not a soft skill — it's a physiological one.
You have language for what was previously unspeakable
Many couples have things they've never said — not because they weren't important, but because there was no map for how to say them safely.
Intimacy becomes something you can return to
Desire and emotional closeness aren't separate. When the relational temperature changes, the physical one often follows.
Relational. Body-aware.
Clinically grounded.
My approach to couples work draws on methods that take both the relational system and the individual nervous system seriously, because what happens between two people is always also happening inside each of them.
Gottman Method (Levels 1 & 2)
An evidence-based framework for understanding the patterns that erode relationship, and the specific practices that rebuild trust, friendship, and shared meaning.
Crucible Sex Therapy
Dr. David Schnarch's differentiation model; working with desire, identity, and the capacity for real intimacy rather than the managed distance that often passes for closeness.
Relational Therapy
The dynamic between two people is never just about conflict management. It's a system with its own logic, one that can be understood and changed at the systemic level.
Nervous System Regulation
Shutdown, flooding, and escalation aren't personality traits, they're learned nervous system responses. They can be recognized, named, and interrupted.
Two formats.
One clinical direction.
Ongoing sessions build progressively. Intensives compress that work into a concentrated block of time — for couples who can't wait, can't do weekly, or want to move faster.
Regular session
A structured 90-minute virtual session. Each session builds on the previous one.
- 90-minute virtual session
- Session summary & next steps
- Weekly or biweekly rhythm
- Receipts provided for insurance
Relational patterns don't change in a single session. They shift over time, with consistent work.
Most couples see meaningful movement within 6–12 sessions. I'll give you an honest picture of what's realistic after our first session together.
Months of work. Compressed into days.
An intensive isn't a shortcut — it's a different format. Same clinical depth, same evidence-based methods. What changes is the pace. For couples in acute crisis, with scheduling constraints, or who want to move faster than weekly sessions allow.
3-hour block
- 3-hour focused clinical session
- Written session summary
- Receipts for insurance
- Free 15-min consultation
- Pre-session questionnaire (both partners, individually)
6-hour block
- 6-hour clinical intensive (with breaks)
- Written session summary & key next steps
- Receipts for insurance
- Free 15-min consultation
- Pre-session questionnaire (both partners, individually)
- 45-min clinical intake session
12-hour block
- 12h of clinical work across 2–3 days
- Written summary after each day
- Treatment plan & post-intensive roadmap
- Follow-up session (30 min)
- Receipts for insurance
- Free 15-min consultation
- Pre-session questionnaire (both partners, individually)
- 90-min clinical assessment session
All intensives include a preparation phase before the first clinical day — so we arrive knowing exactly where to go.
You've been guessing long enough.
Start with a real conversation.
Free 15-minute consultation
We talk about where you are as a couple and what you're hoping to work on. No pressure, no commitment — just a conversation to see if we're the right fit.
First session — mapping what's here
We build a picture together of the dynamic between you — what's driving the patterns, what each of you is carrying, and what kind of work makes sense for your situation.
Ongoing sessions or intensive
Weekly or biweekly for regular sessions (90 min each). Or a concentrated intensive block if that's a better fit. The format follows the clinical need.
OPSQ · CRPO
Gatineau–Ottawa · Virtual
I work with couples who are still in it — but don't know how to get out of the pattern they're in.
My approach is direct. I don't just reflect what I hear — I name what I observe in the dynamic, offer frameworks that make the mechanism visible, and work with both of you toward something concrete.
I'm certified in the Gottman Method (Levels 1 and 2), trained in Crucible Sex Therapy, bilingual, and dually regulated in Quebec (OPSQ) and Ontario (CRPO). All sessions are virtual.
What couples ask before they book.
Questions?
Feel free to reach out if you have any questions or need guidance.